You have got dated ladies mainly, and today you might be drawn to a guy. In my own opinion that is personal that you believe it or not a lesbian (from a lesbian that has been deeply in love with guys). Being gay isn’t only about intercourse; it is about identification as an individual.
I would personally be truthful with him and tell him you are venturing into brand new territory as you are interested in him. And ideally he can be flattered mostly, and just slightly freaked down. We disagree with notreally though, and will never ‘ask him that will help you’ as you’ll find nothing with, and that feels slightly manipulative to me for him to directly to help you. You merely need certainly to pay attention to your self and focus on exactly exactly exactly how this experience enables you to feel. Do not overthink it; do not worry about labels; be honest with just him and also FUN. posted by anthropoid at 4:34 PM may 30, 2009
I’m in contract with almost everyone else here. Do tell him, eventually. Avoid using the expression “I have always been a lesbian” because that is like telling him “this plain thing between us is just a diversion at the best.”
I do not wish their first “next girl” to be . um. a dud. Don’t be concerned about this. Please. You will find a thousand reasons that any girl—even could be found by him an unswervingly heterosexual one—to be described as a dud. Or perhaps you him. If I had been in your footwear, We’d become more concerned about being the rebound girlfriend, or him exercising dilemmas for you which he needs to have exercised along with his ex, or him being in need of love. That type of thing. published by adamrice at 4:41 PM may 30, 2009
Confess that you are experiencing embarrassing, but from someone else that you just wanted to be upfront so that he didn’t hear it. I do believe there is a complete lot to be said for admitting nervousness, as opposed to barreling through attempting to imagine that there is absolutely nothing incorrect and making your partner confused by blended signals.
Blurting out “I’m a” that is lesbian no context will be confusing, but describing that you have actually only dated ladies and recognize being a lesbian is okay. Do not feel as if you need certainly to misrepresent your identification or play it pretty to protect their ego. Yuck.
You will get some questions, however, so you could since very well be ready with a few Queer 101. He will probably ask you to answer why you’lln’t phone your self bi. He will probably wonder the manner in which you experience intercourse with a person, whether you have had sex with a person before, whether you find attractive having intercourse with him. He might re-read you two using some time while you perhaps perhaps perhaps not being drawn adequate to him.
One small feasible disadvantage is that a specific subset of guys become utterly fascinated, and angle for the threesome until it becomes sort of insulting fetishization. published by desuetude at 7:39 PM may 30, 2009 [3 favorites]
The answer to success here’s accepting that the resources are had by you to cope with this. Go with the movement. With regards to the intercourse, let it happen just. You’re prematurily . in to worry an excessive amount of about this.
BTW, you probably care more than you might be happy to acknowledge or perhaps you would not be asking. Get ready to simply accept actually liking him. published by Ironmouth at 11:27 PM may 30, 2009
One small possible disadvantage is that a specific subset of guys become utterly fascinated, and angle for a threesome until it becomes a kind of insulting fetishization.
Discovering that out sooner in place of later on wouldn’t be a negative thing. published by rodgerd at 4:00 AM on May 31, 2009